Dear Stressed Woman: It’s Time to Choose You

Guest Post Written by Jamillah Gilmore

Guest Post Written by Jamillah Gilmore

I know it has been a while since you intentionally took care of yourself. I understand. You have a lot going on with school, work, internships, volunteering, kids, relationships, family, friendships, and the list goes on.

I know sometimes you feel like you don’t have enough hands to juggle all of the balls handed to you.

Some days you look forward to the moment you’ll get home and can finally lay down. I know some nights, no matter how much you want to sleep, you can’t. There are nights when you lay awake for hours while your mind runs through all of the thoughts you didn’t have the time for earlier. I know you pray each night for just one solid night of rest.

You run all day taking care of everything and everyone else, but who is taking care of you? While you pour into everyone else, who is pouring into you?

Let me ask you a question.

What are some of the things that are most important to you?

Really, I want to know.

How many things did you list before you said “me”?

And what does that mean for you?

I want to tell you something that I wish someone had told me a long time ago. It is okay to say no.  “No” is a complete sentence. There are few people in the world you owe an explanation.

I know you have responsibilities, and I know people are depending on you, but remember you do not have to do it all. And that is okay. If you keep struggling to “make it work,” you will continue to be asked to do more. But, you can’t take care of them when there is no more “you” left. I know you don’t have a lot of time, but you need to take care of yourself.

I know it is easy to get caught up in the ways of the world. But remember who you are. Remember whose you are. Take a moment to talk to God. Tell Him about your day. Pray to Him. Thank Him. God will always understand, for He is the guide on this journey, and He’s a great listener.

“The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble” (Psalm 9:9).

Signed – A stressed woman who overcame.

The inspiration behind this letter is my personal experiences of feeling like I had to be superwoman. I hope it inspires all of my fellow Purposeful Women to remember that it is okay to take a moment for yourself, even when there is so much to do. I wish I had realized earlier that it is okay to say no and to do so without an explanation. During my most stressful times, I often prayed to God for discernment, thinking that He would give me answers. Instead, I received the clarity of mind to make decisions and to step out in faith while protecting the sanctity of my spirit.

Purposeful Woman, are there things in your life you must say “no” to so you can ultimately say “yes” to you?


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Jamillah Gilmore | DPW Guest Writer

Jamillah is a newlywed and dog mama passionate about building communities and sharing real stories, lifestyle tips and encouragement. She loves God, her family, reading and brunching.

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