You Don't Have to "Keep Up."

Written by Shandice Stallworth

Written by Shandice Stallworth

Do you ever feel like you are running a race and you barely have the strength or energy to make it to the next water stop?


Feelings of defeat begin to consume your mind and body as you force yourself to keep going. Striving for this, reaching for that, running towards your next achievement to validate your place in this world.

I made a vow to myself at the beginning of this year that the words you just read above would no longer be my anthem. But I know so many of us women are still struggling to find a pace that produces good works coupled with much-needed rest.

We want to keep up.

We want to live out the roles of mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter, career women and business owner as best we can. So we wake up in the morning each day with buried anxiety to perform at a level we believe will validate our work or should I say our worth. We strive to be the best we can and be admired by those watching from a close or a distance. Bombarded with messages that being this or that is not enough and to be valuable, we must strive toward something else.

Aren't you tired?
Because I am.
Tired of the striving anthem that is far from liberating. Messages that on the surface appear harmless but sow seeds of unfulfillment in our hearts.

If you have been rocking with me long enough, you know I first and foremost care about the woman within, as much as I dream big and have limitless dreams for myself and encourage other women to dream big too. I don't believe we should unhealthily pursue a path that is more about validating our worth than releasing the purpose God has placed within us.

As hard as it is to release the pressure, I want to encourage you to cultivate a pace that speaks to the woman you are and the woman you are becoming. You don't have to do "everything" in this season to be worthy, purposeful, or deemed successful.

And if you are experiencing burn out, this is a classic sign that you are operating in your own strength and striving to keep up, rather than seeking God to order your next steps. We have all been there, and this journey isn't easy, but I believe we can become a generation of women who live more, enjoy the life we are given while making a difference in the world. Rather than continually striving to live up to an image that was placed on our shoulders without our permission.

All these roles we carry, are simply that - roles. They don't define us; we define them. Your core determines the type of mother, wife or friend you will be. The way you love, the way you give, the way you speak, and the way you live.

This week, if needed, tweak your rhythm and find a new flow.
Take a seat and read a book, go for a coffee with a friend. See your therapist. Blast your music from your car and sing along as you drive to work. Loosen up and live!

We have one life, so while you work to grow into the woman you were made to be, enjoy the process too! :-)

So today, do you. You don't have to keep up.

Cease striving and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.
Psalm 46:10

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Shandice Stallworth | DPW Founder

Dear Purposeful Woman is on a mission to transform how women see themselves, live their faith and walk with purpose daily. I hope my products, programs, and resources encourage you along your purposeful journey. You are here for a purpose, one that lives in the big and small moments of everyday life. Most importantly, it lives within you.

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